|Posted on February 11, 2021 at 5:50 PM|
Moving from Pain to Peace
When it comes to your emotions, there’s a big difference between being in pain and true suffering. What’s the difference? And how does this relate to your marriage?
So what’s the difference between pain and suffering?
Pain has a purpose.
Suffering is true torture because it has no meaning.
Pain is bearable. Suffering for no reason is devastating.
Ask any woman about child labor. How was it? Would you do it again? Most women will answer: It was painful, but I didn’t suffer. I would do it again.
This is the key to surviving marital problems and making it through to a new love and peace with your spouse.
If you think there’s no purpose to your emotional hurt, you’ll just want out. You’ll run from your kids, your responsibility, your vows…you’ll run from it all just to get relief from an unbearable suffering.
But if you can come to understand why you’re in this situation, then you’ll succeed to make it through like a woman in child labor.
Why is this happening to you? What are you supposed to be learning from all of this? Can you see how your marital problems are really an opportunity for you and your spouse?
It’s an opportunity to grow and learn about one another. What are each other’s triggers? What do I need to be mindful of when we are dealing with a situation as a couple. Conflict does not need to be volatile and destructive. As a matter of fact I share with many of my clients that conflict is actually healthy if it’s handled the right way. Please check out my friendly fighting rules list to get a better idea of how to handle situations or not.