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FORGIVE AND BE FORGIVEN

Posted on February 11, 2021 at 6:05 PM Comments comments ()

Forgive & be Forgiven

Did your spouse hurt you? Have you made mistakes that hurt your spouse?

Except in the case of physical abuse, you can “move on” from anything. In fact, your marriage can end up even BETTER!

I know…you’re probably thinking, “Better? How could it be better than before we screwed up?”

It CAN be better, ...

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Cognitive Distortions

Posted on February 11, 2021 at 5:35 PM Comments comments ()

Cognitive Distortions

The Ten Forms of Self Defeating Thoughts

1. All or nothing - thinking

You see things in black and white categories If a situation falls short of perfect, you see it as a total failure. When a young woman on a diet ate a spoonful of ice cream, she told herself, 'I've blown my diet completely.' This thought upset her so much that she gobbled down an entire qu...

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Are you sure you don't have Co-dependancy ?

Posted on January 20, 2020 at 8:00 PM Comments comments ()

What is a co-dependent 

 

Welllll …there isn’t a guidebook for setting boundaries. Each of us has our own guide inside ourselves. If we continue to work at recovery from being co- dependant , our boundaries will develop. They will get healthy and sensitive. Our selves will tell us what we need to know, and we’ll love ourselves enough to listen.

Beyond Codependency

What do we need to do to take care of ourselves?

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STONEWALLING

Posted on February 10, 2019 at 11:45 PM Comments comments ()

STONEWALLING

What is it and do you do it ??

The second behavior that predicts divorce with over 90% accuracy, according to John Gottman's research and the experience of most couples' counselors, is stonewalling. Different from an occasional timeout to calm down or collect your thoughts, stonewalling is absolute refusal to consider your partner’s perspective. If you listen at all, you do it dismissively or contemptuously.

The common songs of the stonewaller are:

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Attitudinal Healing

Posted on April 22, 2017 at 4:30 PM Comments comments ()

Attitudinal Healing 

"Attitudinal Healing is based on the principle that it is not other people or situations that cause us distress. Rather, it is our own thoughts and attitudes that are responsible for our distress, and the actions we take as a result of those thoughts and attitudes can hurt us. Healing results when we concentrate on changing our own attitudes rather than trying to change the attitudes ...

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ARE YOU NEGOTIATING YOUR BOUNDARIES??

Posted on April 22, 2017 at 4:25 PM Comments comments ()

ARE YOU NEGOTIATING YOUR BOUNDARIES??

Boundaries are a measure of self-esteem. They set the limits for acceptable behavior from those around you, determining whether they feel able to put you down, make fun, or take advantage of your good nature.

The ‘Five Things’ Method

▪ List five things you’d like people to stop doing around you, for example, criticizing absent colleagues

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